What is Gender? Is it a male or a female?

No, it is define by relation between sexes. 

In my country, here on Balkan the boundaries are slowly disappearing. Women are participating all daily duties regardless off how difficult they are. They are obliged to help in the field as well as in the kitchen. They do laundry, cleaning and cooking, but also perform miracles with ropes and hammers.
In my particular story, Milanka is helping her husband in all his duties but in the same time is serving him lunch, passing him water, but not eating with him . She is here to make his life more comfortable and to keep him company.